Posts Tagged ‘mother’

Stories That Dismay As Well As Inspire

At yesterday’s Women’s Voices conference among the many interesting speakers there was one phrase in particular that stood out. Stories that dismay as well as inspire. This quote is by Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, from her book with a title that will no doubt be familiar: Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History. During the Q&A I […] Read more…

Set Her Free: The Plight of Pregnant Asylum Seekers

Can you imagine… Fleeing your home, leaving behind your friends, family, and belongings to seek asylum in another country? Being detained, indefinitely, in that new country? And not only that, but being indefinitely detained while pregnant? In 2014, this was the sad reality for 99 women, indefinitely detained at Yarl’s Wood Detention Centre while pregnant. […] Read more…

Standing on the Periphery

I am standing on the periphery. The periphery of the life that should have been mine. The life that should have belonged to Hugo. I am standing on the lip of a chasm. The chasm that my life fell in to. Two years ago this week I discovered I was pregnant. Oh, the joy and […] Read more…

Tune In, Don’t Zone Out

The sharing of a very insightful post led to an interesting discussion on Twitter last night. The essence of the post was about listening, and connections, and I particularly liked an analogy comparing listening to making sure a radio is properly tuned in. We need to tune in, and don’t zone out. While the art of […] Read more…

What Happened at the National Maternity Review Team Listening Event?

Yesterday was the first listening event of the National Maternity Review, held at London King’s College. The invitation, from the Chair of the review herself, Baroness Julia Cumberledge promised that the event would “…be pooling ideas to improve maternity services.” And that “We are most anxious to hear from all those who have an interest […] Read more…

Moving Forward, Not Moving On

Moving forward. Moving on. These terms sound pretty similar, but they are different, very different – and the distinction in respect to living with grief is crucial. ‘Moving on’ implies putting something behind you, letting something go. The effort of trying to move on from a relationship that has ended, especially one that has ended […] Read more…

What I Want The National Maternity Review Team to Know

The National Maternity Review is going to be assessing current maternity services, and consider how services across the country should change to meet the needs of women and babies. My son Hugo was born in February 2014 when I was just 24 weeks’ pregnant because I had the rare, life-threatening pregnancy complications HELLP syndrome and […] Read more…

The Loneliness of the Empty-Armed Mother

Yesterday was a bad day. Not for any particular reason. Grief can be lonely – even in a room full of people, fellow grievers say. Yesterday that loneliness, combined with anger, resentment and deep sorrow at being an empty-armed mother threatened to erupt. Stumbling upon a post by a fellow mother with no living children was […] Read more…

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