Not All Tears Are An Evil

Chin up!

What’s the worst that can happen?

Worse things happen at sea!

We like to keep a stiff upper lip, don’t we?

Let’s not talk about things that might cause a stir, rouse emotion, give cause for a tear to be shed.

Not showing emotions, not crying is a sign of strength, they say.

Then by that logic, showing your emotions, hot tears running down your face must be a weakness.

That view is nonsense.

Emotions are what make us human. We may cry tears of joy, or tears of sorrow.

But what is prevalent in my mind are those tears of sorrow, of grief, of what should have been.

Trying for so long to be strong. Trying for so long to distract myself, to keep myself busy.

Grief is a heavy load to bear. It rides on my back, tries to lead me in to darkness.

I hold on to the view of the journey I have walked so far. I hold on to memories, precious memories. I think about the future, what it may bring. Good things, surely.

I hold on to love.

Those tears, those tears that need to come will not make me break.

Those tears will cleanse. They will purge. But they will not erase.

Those tears will exhaust, drain, cause pain.

But not all tears are an evil.

Vulnerability is not a weakness.

You go to the bottom, you rise again.

After, I will regroup, restore, stronger.

Ready to fight again.

Living with grief (3)


19 Comments on Not All Tears Are An Evil

  1. Verily Victoria Vocalises
    December 2, 2015 at 3:12 pm (6 years ago)

    Such wise and beautiful words – I wholeheartedly agree. I love that saying too – a very clever writer that Tolkein. Thank you for linking to Prose for Thought xx

    • Leigh
      December 5, 2015 at 12:01 pm (6 years ago)

      Yes lovely Vic that Tolkein chap wasn’t half bad! xxx

    • Leigh
      December 1, 2015 at 4:21 pm (6 years ago)

      Definitely – thank you xx

  2. Susie Glasgowdrsgonfly
    November 30, 2015 at 5:06 am (6 years ago)

    Hear, hear. Tears are never a weakness. People will always try & sooth with quotes but what do they know? Beautiful words well observed – thanks for sharing X

    • Leigh
      December 1, 2015 at 4:21 pm (6 years ago)

      Absolutely. Sometimes a good cry is what you need, and there is no need to be ashamed of that xx

  3. Kyles @ Pickles and Pords
    November 28, 2015 at 10:24 am (6 years ago)

    This is so powerful and so true. I can’t stand it when I hear someone being told that to be strong is not to cry. Tears can be cleansing and restorative. Beautifully written. #prose4t

    • Leigh
      November 28, 2015 at 1:52 pm (6 years ago)

      So true! Emotions make us human, and they are nothing to be ashamed of. Thanks for commenting xxx

  4. Ojo Henley
    November 27, 2015 at 7:06 pm (6 years ago)

    That’s is beautiful! Well done. Tears can be a great healer, a way to release the stresses that are holding you back x

  5. Jo Winwood
    November 27, 2015 at 5:50 pm (6 years ago)

    Thank you for reminding me that my emotions are valid and not something to hide. I found myself in tears the other day when I finished a book (it was a wonderful book but a sad ending) and started to berate myself for crying. But why shouldn’t I cry if I was moved by the book? Lovely quote from Tolkein too.

  6. Becky Cowley
    November 25, 2015 at 1:19 pm (6 years ago)

    Beautiful post. You are so right, not all tears are evil. Very wise words my lovely xx #ThePrompt

    • Leigh
      November 26, 2015 at 2:11 pm (6 years ago)

      Thank you Becky xxx

  7. Sara | mumturnedmom
    November 22, 2015 at 4:50 pm (6 years ago)

    Very wise words Leigh. Today I find myself grieving the loss of a very dear friend, and my tears are of sorrow, but also of joy at having known him. Not all tears are evil, and not crying them would be worse x

    • Sara | mumturnedmom
      November 22, 2015 at 4:51 pm (6 years ago)

      And thank you, of course, for sharing with #ThePrompt, I needed to read this post today x

    • Leigh
      November 24, 2015 at 8:40 am (6 years ago)

      I’m so sorry for your loss, Sara. Lots of love xxx

  8. Kaitlyn
    November 21, 2015 at 3:03 am (6 years ago)

    Glad to hear that I’m not the only one with so many emotions left to grapple with. Sometimes it seems none of us should have any tears left to cry – yet there they are. I’m still having such a hard time with anger. I can’t stand it for long so I distract myself out of it. But it’s still there, asking to be let out somehow.

    • Leigh
      November 24, 2015 at 8:47 am (6 years ago)

      Yes, I had (have) problems with anger. It’s a reaction to things being so unfair but it’s a challenging emotion isn’t it? It needs to be let out, although I understand how even that feels difficult sometimes. Hugs xxx

  9. Louise Parry
    November 19, 2015 at 9:13 pm (6 years ago)

    Wise words from a wise lady. The idea that tears are weak is so ingrained that most of us feel that we have to hide our true emotions when in reality it can be so damaging.

    • Leigh
      November 24, 2015 at 8:49 am (6 years ago)

      So true – thanks lovely xxx


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