Baby Loss Awareness Day: The Last Lullaby

Today is Baby Loss Awareness Day. It’s a strange feeling – it is a day like any other, yet a day so full of poignancy.

I talk openly and candidly about baby loss and about my Hugo every day of the year, of course. We broken-hearted mummies and daddies miss our babies – whether they died before or after they were born – every single day of the year.

So why is Baby Loss Awareness Day so important? It is a day where it seems acceptable to openly talk about baby loss, the impact it has on those left behind, and how to better support those affected by baby loss.

It is also an opportunity to talk about our babies, which is especially important for those parents who for whatever reason feel that they do not have a voice.



Everyone – whether or not they have lost a baby – is welcome to join in the Wave of Light tonight at 7pm.

I shall be playing the beautiful song The Last Lullaby.

The lyrics are hauntingly beautiful, and the chorus about feeling the baby everywhere in nature is very resonant because I think the same about Hugo’s spirit.

Jenny Payne and Lucy Hiku, who comprise New Zealand children’s music act Itty Bitty Beats wrote the song about grieving the loss of a baby.

This song is very close to their hearts, because in 2009 Jenny’s son Leo died at 3 days old in the arms of his parents, after battling lung and kidney problems caused by Posterior Urethral Valves.

Jenny and Lucy have written this song to help the grieving process for anyone who has been affected by the death of a baby: parents, grandparents, family, friends, anyone who has lost a child.

Their hope is that this song can help as many people as possible, so they have put a link for a free download on their website  The song and lyrics are also available on Bandcamp for free download.

I was really pleased when they got in touch with me to tell me about their song. The lyrics are incredibly moving, and say so much about what I feel about Hugo today and every day.

This is for all the mummies and daddies who have lost a piece of their heart.

The mummies and daddies who have had to sing a last lullaby for their precious baby.

The mummies and daddies who have to feel, see, and look for their babies everywhere except in their arms.

Kia kaha

(it is Maori for stay strong).

The Last Lullaby

This is our last lullaby for you darling

I’ll find you in the lull of the evening

Where the sunset draws its lines

Your heart will be in mine (in my heart)

Atop the trees are the dreams that await you

They shall wing their way to your heart

My love, my child, my sweet

May this gentle peace anoint you

I’ll feel you in the sun

I’ll hear you in the wind

I’ll see you in my dreams

I’ll hold you in my heart

I’ll find you in the quiet, or the swell of the ocean

I’ll find you in the dawn of the hurt

Your memory may sneak

From my eyes unto my cheek

My darling

I’ll feel you in the sun

I’ll hear you in the wind

I’ll see you in my dreams

I’ll hold you in my heart

This is our last lullaby for you darling

The Last Lullaby Image

If you want to hear more from Itty Bitty Beats (2015 Tui award nominee for best children’s album of the year for their CD, Bath Time), their albums Bath Time and Lay Your Head Down are available on iTunes and bandcamp. You can follow them on Facebook or get in touch with them at email: 


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6 Comments on Baby Loss Awareness Day: The Last Lullaby

    • Leigh
      October 28, 2015 at 5:36 pm (5 years ago)

      It’s such a beautiful song – incredibly moving xxx

    • Leigh
      October 19, 2015 at 4:33 pm (5 years ago)

      Thank you, lovely xxx

  1. Michelle Reeves (The Joy Chaser)
    October 15, 2015 at 5:20 pm (5 years ago)

    Oh honey this is such a beautiful song, incredibly moving lyrics and you are amazing for sharing so much to help others. Sending you huge hugs xxx

    • Leigh
      October 19, 2015 at 4:34 pm (5 years ago)

      Thank you – the song is incredible isn’t it? xxx


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