This week my Friday Favourites post is all about blogging!
Blogging is wonderful, in my humble opinion: what began as a hobby and an outlet for my creativity has become a lifeline through living with grief, and provided me with a sense of purpose during the darkest days.
In no particular order of importance, here are my favourite points about blogging:
I can write my words, my way, and in my own time.
It’s my own little corner of the internet! No one is required to sign off what I write, which is refreshing! Provided I am happy that what I have written is for the right reasons, factual and accurate, and that I am not causing any offence (intentionally, at least) I have carte blanche to do as I like.
No one telling me what to do, no direction, no deadlines.
If I want to write, I write.
If I don’t want to write, I don’t.
Exploring different ways of writing
The majority of my posts in the last year have inevitably focused on Hugo, what happened around his birth, life, and his death, and dealing with what came after.
These posts have had a range of styles: some are stream of consciousness, some are commentary and opinion – I have even explored poetry as a way of articulating my emotions.
Over time, I have felt able to write about what makes ‘me, me’ with more frivolous posts including a bit of humour, contemplating life, the universe, and everything. Oh, and bags and dresses.
Just like with the point above, I am free to write what I want to write, according to my mood or feelings that day – and in the way I want to write it.
The freedom to explore different styles of writing has built my confidence as a writer – if you tend to stick to a particular style, why not experiment? You can always write drafts and not publish things until you’re happy with them.
The opportunities I have been given.
My blog is my platform for Hugo’s Legacy, to make a difference to other families in his memory. Through it, I have met the most incredible, inspirational people; been invited to speak at events; learned how Hugo is helping influence health care professionals’ practice.
It really is wonderful to behold.
Friendship and Support
While it may seem cheesy, the blogging community is wonderfully supportive to one another. We provide mutual support, and I have made wonderful friends. I’m fortunate to have met many of them in real life, too, such as at BritMumsLive a couple of weeks ago.
Bloggers – as well as others who visit my blog – have provided me with so much love and support, helping keep me going and giving me valuable reassurance that my Hugo will never be forgotten.
I feel privileged to be a part of the community.
Blogging also means I am able to provide support to those who are only just beginning their journey after birth trauma, neonatal care, or the death of their baby – the importance of knowing you are not alone cannot be underestimated.
Without blogging, my life today, my outlook on life, and my view of the future are likely to look very different indeed.
Thank you all.