Can I Wear Red Lipstick?

For years I had many ‘can’ts’ in my vocabulary.

I can’t wear colour.

I can’t wear dresses.

If I do wear dresses, they must be a certain (long) length.

I can’t walk in to a room full of people I don’t know.

I can’t do public speaking.

I can’t have a conversation with someone in a foreign country in their own language.

I can’t wear my hair short.

I can’t wear red lipstick.

So many can’ts. So much negativity.

Easier to hide than put myself out there. Easier to blend in to the background. Easier to never take a risk, stay safe rather than look silly.

It’s taken me years to learn these were limitations I put on myself.

I was the one telling myself that I can’t…. and I am the only one who can tell me I can.

A life-threatening illness and Hugo’s death have shown me that I need to put myself out there. That I don’t do blending in to the background. That I can take risks, don’t mind looking silly, and who cares anyway?

And this week I have discovered such a simple thing – red lipstick. Previously avoided as too bold, I am now rocking it with the shorter hairstyle I love (I wish I’d taken the plunge long ago!).

Don’t let your limitations hold you back. Say can, not can’t to whatever it is that is stopping you going for whatever you want.

Be you.


0 comment on Can I Wear Red Lipstick?

  1. Alice @ The Filling Glass
    June 25, 2015 at 8:36 pm (5 years ago)

    Yes, you can! I am cultivating a more positive spin on my life, after a long period of feeling that ‘I can’t’. Your words are encouraging, thanks.

  2. jasmine shei
    June 25, 2015 at 7:33 pm (5 years ago)

    Nice. Like the red lipstick.

  3. Tim
    June 24, 2015 at 9:47 pm (5 years ago)

    To paraphrase a Lucille Ball quote I spotted this morning: better to regret things you’ve done than things you haven’t. I’ve been awash with negativity at times in my life (often for little reason), but old(er) age has definitely taught me just to do stuff and worry less. Life is short – and we never really know just how short it might be until it is too late. If that isn’t a reason to live life to the full now, I don’t know what is. šŸ™‚

  4. mummyshambles
    June 24, 2015 at 4:48 pm (5 years ago)

    Age makes us a little bolder too with a certain element of ‘sod it’ involved. šŸ™‚
    You look stunning and the lipstick really suits you. X

    • Leigh Kendall
      June 28, 2015 at 3:40 pm (5 years ago)

      Aha – ‘sod it’ – exactly! Thanks so much lovely xxx

  5. babylossmama
    June 24, 2015 at 4:01 pm (5 years ago)

    I had the same “who cares anyway?” revelation after Ander’s death. After surviving that, what could possibly faze me, you know? Such an unexpected gift, but I completely understand it!


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