The eagle-eyed amongst my regular readers may have noticed that I have posted just as much as ever in the past week, despite last week saying that I needed space away from blogging.

The space is still badly-needed. So, why do I feel liberated despite posting as much as ever? Because I told myself I didn’t have to. That’s the major difference. It is incredible how vocalising or writing something down can help! I write because I want to, it’s something I enjoy, gives me satisfaction, and keeps my mind working.

I just need to achieve the balance between keeping my mind working and wearing it out.

In recent weeks I’ve written a few weighty, epic opinion posts that took their toll emotionally, but they had to be written. I say ‘had’ to be written because they are issues that I feel very strongly about, and it is crucial to talk about them.

During the past week I have been taking part in a ‘writing your grief’ course. It’s an online community and participants are invited to use free writing in response to a prompt. Free writing is about going where your mind takes you, no self-editing or self-censorship, for a set amount of time (I’ve been doing about 15 minutes per prompt). It’s been emotional, of course, but therapeutic too. It is helpful to be prompted into thinking about things a different way, from an angle not previously considered and release pent-up feelings.

A couple of them have become blog posts: the beauty of them is that they needed to only to be copied and pasted, with a bit of tidying. A lot less gruelling on my old noggin. It is important to be open about grief because while it is felt individually, it helps others understand a bit more about how it feels. There are many other ‘writing your grief’ posts that will remain personal, though.

Cutting down on the linkies has been liberating, too. A couple of times this week I’ve found myself thinking “it’s x day, that’s x linky day”, but whereas previously I would have joined in irrespective of how I was feeling, I’ve stayed away if I’ve not felt up to it. The world (probably) won’t end. I’ve commented on posts that have caught my eye, which feels better than having to find a post in a linky that I feel able to read without feeling upset, let alone comment on.

Liberation feels good. I am getting better at recognising when I need to have a break, rather than continuing to make myself work so I don’t have to be at one with my thoughts.

This has given me more time to work on other things, and relaxation time, too – going to the gym, and reading. I’ve downloaded a stash of books to my Kindle as temptation to lure myself away from this screen to that one, and hopefully return to devouring books the way I always used to.

Expanding my horizons, step by step.


The Reading Residence

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  1. Michelle Reeves (bodfortea)
    December 22, 2014 at 6:25 am (5 years ago)

    Leigh I’m so glad you’ve found the space to take a mental break from the blogging – even if it wasn’t a physical one. Just making that mindset shift can have such a positive effect. Hugs xx

    • Leigh Kendall
      December 22, 2014 at 5:05 pm (5 years ago)

      Thanks Michelle, it’s been really positive just saying I’m doing it because I want to, not because I have to! xxx

  2. Merlinda Little (@pixiedusk)
    December 20, 2014 at 10:35 am (5 years ago)

    Being free to do whatever you want is such an amazing feeling that I havent done nor felt in a long time. It must be a nice week if you feel liberated and I am so happy with the developments =) #wotw

    • Leigh Kendall
      December 21, 2014 at 12:03 pm (5 years ago)

      It’s certainly been a better week compared to recent ones. Thanks for commenting xxx

  3. thereadingresidence
    December 19, 2014 at 2:02 pm (5 years ago)

    Great word! I think shifting your mindset so you no longer feel compelled to blog or join in with linkies is huge, and yes, liberating. I’m glad you have some relaxation time lined up, too, it sounds lovely. Thank you for sharing with #WotW x

    • Leigh Kendall
      December 21, 2014 at 11:59 am (5 years ago)

      Thank you Jocelyn. I think Word of the Week has been amazingly helpful in that endeavour, I am not sure I would have articulated my feelings in such a way – so a huge thank you xxx

  4. Tara
    December 19, 2014 at 1:56 pm (5 years ago)

    I didn’t want to mention it in case you hadn’t realised. Hehe! So pleased you feel liberated to carry on writing. The course sounds really interesting. Will you be writing a post about it on it’s own?

    • Leigh Kendall
      December 21, 2014 at 11:57 am (5 years ago)

      Haha! It’s funny, I was wondering how many people would notice. It’s nice to know people really do read and take in my posts! The course is gruelling but excellent, I’ll write a post about it in its own right once it’s over. xxx

  5. Tim
    December 19, 2014 at 1:49 pm (5 years ago)

    That’s great to hear, Leigh. And you’re right, it’s so often true that just articulating that an issue exists is enough to make it go away (or at least shrink to a manageable size). It’s so easy to get caught up on a treadmill that only ever gets faster.

    • Leigh Kendall
      December 21, 2014 at 11:56 am (5 years ago)

      Thanks Tim. It’s like a lot of things – recognising it’s an issue can help. Blogging is a great therapy for me, it needn’t become another monster x

  6. meghanoc
    December 19, 2014 at 11:06 am (5 years ago)

    I’ve done that course! I thought I recognized the grief personified post you wrote :). It was a real stepping stone for me. I’m so glad you’re doing it and getting such good posts. Xxx

    • Leigh Kendall
      December 21, 2014 at 11:55 am (5 years ago)

      Oh, wow! It’s an amazing course, run by another amazing Megan. It’s very revealing, I’m glad I found it, and I’m glad you found it too xxx

  7. mummyshambles
    December 19, 2014 at 10:45 am (5 years ago)

    Another inspiring post which reminds us how easy it is to get ‘bogged down’ by blogging & social media. It’s important to step back and do other things. I blog when I have something to say and ,like you, have found blogging through my grief to be therapeutic and in doing that, I’ve connected with others.
    Social media is a wonderful thing but occasionally, switching off, feels good.
    Good post, Leigh X

    • Leigh Kendall
      December 21, 2014 at 11:51 am (5 years ago)

      Oh it really is – it’s a great therapy but I think it’s important to recognise when it is time to step away, for the sake of your own sanity. An vital balance to strike. Thanks so much xxx


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