No, not like that.
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I’m naturally contemplative and intuitive. For a long time I’ve wondered what secret was held by people who can best be described, euphemistically, as having more of an overt self-confidence in their own abilities. I thought I had to be like them to get ahead. That was until I figured out a lot of them are just faking it.
Faking it – including wondering whether you should to get ahead or worry about being found out – is a common concern.
Integrity, kindness and honesty are qualities that are important to me. ‘Faking’ holds connotations of dishonesty and poor ethics. So, do I want to fake it to make it?
I’ve noticed that the people I most admire don’t fake it, but have an inner confidence – in themselves as people and in their own abilities. They remain true to their own values.
A bit of faking might work at first, if only to trick the brain into doing something that frightens you out of your comfort zone. For me, part of that means being more open.
Being open is enabling me to be more ebullient, as well as passionate about the issues and people that are important to me.
If I was faking it all the time, I’d be looking over my shoulder, waiting to be found out. That seems exhausting.