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    Why I Keep A Gratitude Journal

    Why do I keep a gratitude journal? Well, in its simplest terms the purpose is to keep a record of things I am grateful for. What’s the point, you may ask? That’s a good question. The idea of a gratitude log might seem cheesy, and as though I am expecting every day to be full […] Read more…

  • How to be Stylish During a British Summer

    How to be Stylish During a British Summer

    How do you be stylish during a British summer? It should be simple: flowing dresses, shorts, camisole tops, sandals. A floppy hat, and lots of suncream. But simple a British summer is not. Weather during a British summer is unreliable, with not as many warm, balmy, sunny days as we would like. You have to […] Read more…

  • My Blog Makeover

    My Blog Makeover

    I’ve given my blog a little makeover: what do you think? My blog, like me, is something that is constantly evolving, and I like the way it looks to reflect that evolution.  The makeover is something I’ve been pondering for a little while, and I’ve spent time thinking about how I might like it to […] Read more…

  • My Missed Miscarriage

    My Missed Miscarriage

    Another baby who does not get to develop, grow, thrive, live. Another pregnancy ending in surgery. ____________________ At the end of June I was delighted to discover I was pregnant! This baby was so wanted, so tried for, and conceived naturally. We were over the moon. It didn’t take long for the nausea to kick […] Read more…

Hugo's Legacy

  • When Hugo's Photo Was Used for a Fraudulent Fundraising Attempt

    When Hugo’s Photo Was Used For A Fraudulent Fundraising Attempt

    Friday evening brought an unpleasant shock: a photo of Hugo had been used to illustrate a fraudulent fundraising attempt. First and foremost, it is important to say that thanks to vigilance on behalf of a complete stranger who got in touch with us to alert us, the page was swiftly removed. Thankfully, no money had […] Read more…

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    Can You Help ‘Nobody’s Patient’?

    Was your baby in neonatal care? Are you a mother who needed special care herself, in adult high dependency or intensive care as the result of your pregnancy or your baby’s birth? Or, did your baby sadly die before, during or after birth? If you would like to share one thing you would like health […] Read more…

Maternity Experience (#MatExp)

  • The First Nobody's Patient Pilot Workshop

    The First Nobody’s Patient Pilot Workshop

    The first Nobody’s Patient pilot workshop was held last Friday, and was a resounding success. Nobody’s Patient is an extension of the maternity experience (#MatExp) project, looking at three key groups: Women who are seriously ill during pregnancy and birth; Families of babies who need neonatal or paediatric care; Families whose babies sadly die before, […] Read more…

  • What A Difference A Change Makes

    What A Difference A Change Makes

    What a difference a change makes! Reading that you are justified in thinking “Duh, it’s hardly a change if it doesn’t make a difference.” You’d be right! What I’m meaning, though, is what a change. A transformation. A pretty much 360 degree turnaround. What I am talking about is a visit to the hospital this […] Read more…

Perinatal Mental Health

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    What EMDR Therapy Feels Like

    After my serious illness and the death of Hugo I was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). PTSD happens as the result of trauma. Part of PTSD means that parts of the brain that deal with threats, memory, and decision-making (as well as the links between them) are damaged, meaning it is difficult to distinguish […] Read more…

  • Why We Need To Improve Perinatal Mental Health Support

    Why We Need To Improve Perinatal Mental Health Support

    We need to improve perinatal mental health support. With mental ill health remaining a taboo subject, experiencing mental ill health carrying a stigma, and mental ill health constantly misunderstood this all mental health services suffer from chronic underfunding and insufficient investment in terms of dedicated resources. Perinatal mental health is too often at the bottom […] Read more…

Living with Grief

  • As I Look Out of the Window....

    As I Look Out of the Window…

    As I look out of the window The world is grey: For the past few days no sunshine, no warmth. All feels downcast.   As I look out of the window My world is grey: For the past few weeks more struggles, more challenges All feels melancholy.   I look out of another window The […] Read more…

  • Patience and Resilience in Coping With Trauma and Grief

    Patience and Resilience in Coping With Trauma and Grief

    Do we need patience or resilience in coping with trauma and grief? The short answer is that it’s not an either/or: we need both qualities, as well as lots more besides to move forward from emotionally challenging times. Being Mental Health Awareness Week, it is an apt time to consider the question. I am posing […] Read more…

Neonatal

  • Two Years of Hugo's Legacy

    Two Years of Hugo’s Legacy

    Today marks two years of Hugo’s Legacy. I was reminded of this by a Facebook memory this morning, which prompted me to think about everything that has happened since I hit ‘publish’ on that first post. In April 2014 I was in that stage of raw, visceral early grief. I was confused, angry, frightened. Full […] Read more…

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    Don’t Stop, Continue: Bereaved Parents’ Voices Matter

    Every so often I get a song lyric going round and round in my head, burrowing in my brain. The most recent one is Don’t stop, continue It’s from Give It Away, one of my favourite songs by Red Hot Chili Peppers. Events this week have intensified my passion for making sure the voices of […] Read more…

Self-Care

  • Starting the Day with Sun Salutations

    Starting the Day with Sun Salutations

    Many a morning I wake up foggy-headed as the result of therapy, and meds. It’s frustrating, especially for someone who used to be a morning person. Too many hours feel wasted because my brain and body felt like they felt so long to be in the world. I’ve never considered myself to be a yoga […] Read more…

  • Breaking The Comfort Eating Habit

    Breaking The Comfort Eating Habit

    Hi, my name is Leigh and I am a comfort eater. I don’t mean to be flippant: for years, comfort eating has been my drug, my vice, my go-to when life has become challenging. Difficult morning at work? Grab some chocolate at lunchtime. Difficult day? Pick up something indulgent for the evening. Feeling low? Cake […] Read more…

Style

  • How to be Stylish During a British Summer

    How to be Stylish During a British Summer

    How do you be stylish during a British summer? It should be simple: flowing dresses, shorts, camisole tops, sandals. A floppy hat, and lots of suncream. But simple a British summer is not. Weather during a British summer is unreliable, with not as many warm, balmy, sunny days as we would like. You have to […] Read more…

  • Choosing Workout Clothes to Boost

    Workout Clothes to Boost Body Confidence

    If you’re feeling a bit intimidated about going to the gym, whatever your shape and size because of body confidence issues, this post may be for you. The gym can feel like it is full of very fit people who know what they are doing and it’s easy to feel pretty rubbish in comparision, especially […] Read more…

Just For Fun

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    40 Thoughts for My 40th Year

    Tomorrow is my birthday, and I shall be 39. The last year of my 30s! I know, I can’t believe it either… The thought of being 40 next year is nowhere near as scary as when I was 29, and looking ahead to my 30s. Age doesn’t really matter that much, and the events of the […] Read more…

  • Books for Your holidays

    Books For Your Summer Holidays

    I’ve seen a few requests on social media for recommendations for books to take away on summer holidays, so thought I’d share some of my favourite reads. The kind of books you want on your holiday are, I think, ones with page-turning stories, interesting characters, and plots that are gripping without being too complicated (and […] Read more…